All I Want for Christmas…

All I Want for Christmas…

Creative needs are contradictory, on the one hand we need participation, to connect with and be inspired by others. But perhaps even more than this, creativity needs solitude, and that’s not easy to find in modern life. Even for me.

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As one person at the helm of a global community over 12,000 people (20,000 now) investment is high, inspiration is high, participation and interaction are high, time investment is high too. Add to that editing books, working towards publication. That probably speaks for itself, what it takes.

This year too I’ve gone back into coaching work with a new focus of creativity. I love the work and I’m good at it, it’s deeply inspiring and satisfying. Add to this a home and family, three children, it’s a dream, but I have to take conscious time for the solitude part.

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My little chickadees, Christmas Eve 2013

If I’m not careful I lose myself, and when the writing, the creativity suffers, I suffer.  

And it’s the writing, and the open hearted sharing of life, work, process. My way of fearlessly embracing life, my creativity, of following where it leads me, that is the foundation of this place, this work, and me.

It’s what I built and re-built myself with, found my path with. 

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So how to balance these things? The need for all that is without, and within?

Balance is key, and conscious effort, because you have to see it first, recognise the need, and honour it.

My answer is they have to come at different times. We have to see and then say, this time is the time for solitude, this other time, is for participation.

Well friends, I have been too long in participation mode and here is the gift of deep winter, Christmas, right when I need it.

This time is for solitude. For long winter walks here, on the Sliabh an Iarainn mountain that inspired my book. It is here, away from the world I’ll go deep, find solitude, my scattered self. 

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It’s been a lightning fast year, a year of exponential growth for me and my work. I am not the person I was a year ago, she is gone a ghost.

I am spending too much time out, for it is winter and precious. It is time to go deep. Soon the solstice will be upon us, the return of the sun, end of sleep. The new year will stretch out before us as perfect as fresh fallen snow, endless handfuls overflowing cups of time, the power of a lifetime, what is left to us. How will we give it away? This hour, that hour. I will not waste my time.

That curious love of green house

Tesla: “The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude. Originality thrives in seclusion free of outside influences beating upon us to cripple the creative mind. Be alone—that is the secret of invention: be alone, that is when ideas are born.”

Goethe: “One can be instructed in society, one is inspired only in solitude.”

Picasso: “Without great solitude no serious work is possible.”

Thomas Mann: “Solitude gives birth to the original in us, to beauty unfamiliar and perilous — to poetry.”

Kafka: “You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen, simply wait, just learn to become quiet, and still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.”

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Merry Christmas dear readers, xo Jane

that curious love of green at christmas



14 thoughts on “All I Want for Christmas…”

  • You’re always able to nail down the edges of my vague thoughts into something solid and deep. The balance of time twixt being with others and being alone can be so difficult to manage, yet it must be tamed. Thank you Jane. You have been my inspiration and my mentor before I even knew it. From the moment I stumbled across this blog only four months ago, engaged with the bootcamp and now the salon, I have received only joy and a gentle nudge to believe in my own abilities and get on with it. I humbly wish you the Merriest Christmas and most Joyful Solitude!

  • Yes, solitude allows creativity. My creativity comes in two modes, social and introverted introspective. Writing is usually a solo activity, but knitting or piecing a quilt often flourishes in a group.
    Merry Christmas, Jane!
    I am headed for Texas to my older daughter’s home for Christmas. I told her that, for Christmas, I want her to help me set up a blog. She has a blog, although she has neglected to post for a long while.

  • Indeed. One doesn’t find their well of creativity in the hustle and bustle of society.
    May you have a Merry Christmas and a fruitful new year.

  • Beautifully written, Jane – and I love the quotes especially the one from Kafka – there is a lot to be said for solitude and time to reflect and time to create – it is hard getting the balance right and especially with the availability of so much social media it is even harder as you can be flooded by it – I have been overdoing the time I spend on it at the expense of everything else so I think I will be giving more time to solitude and creativity in the New Year and restoring some equilibrium into my life. Have a wonderful time with family and friends and enjoy the solitude when it comes your way or or when you consciously make time for it. I enjoy my own company a lot as much as I enjoy the company of others – just getting that balance right is key! Have a wonderful Christmas and see you in 2016.

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